Such a behavior of two your friends is very widespread and it can be annoying. Let’s consider this example situation. A young man wants to introduce his girlfriend to his parents, but he is really afraid of it. Parents had been asking to meet her for a few months but the guy was scared of the introduction for some reason. Our hero feels anxiety, but he can’t understand why because really wants her girlfriend to meet his parents. Finally, they arranged to have dinner in the restaurant and the guy realized why he was so hesitant; a night of teasing and embarrassment was in store.
His parents shared all the details of boy’s childhood that he hadn't shared with his girlfriend. They all together laughed how funny our hero looks in the morning and when he asked them to stop talking about him, they all teased him about that as well.
It’s a common situation, isn’t it? Indeed, we can see this phenomenon in other relationships, in televisions and movies. You can meet this phenomenon in all types merged friendships. So, why do two people meeting for the first time tease the friend who has introduced them?
At first, let’s give the definition to some terms, which can help you to understand the reason of teasing better. Bridge friend – is the man who introduces two friends from different social groups.
Teasing is a communication directed by a person toward a target that includes aggression, humor, and ambiguity.
Attachment- is behavior model that defines one's relationship with another. This model defines how we treat the other person in public situations.
So, thinking about the reasons of this phenomenon we can pick out some main of them. The first factor that makes people behave that way is the need to protect their attachment to the bridge friend from the outside world. The second factor is the need to reach an understanding with each other. They talk about the one thing they definitely have in common and that makes their acquaintance easier.
Unfortunately, we can’t change people’s behavior to the one we need, but if you have become a target of a regular teasing you ought to do something with it. The best decision would be to have a conversation with your friends who are teasing you. While you are talking you need to remain as calm as you possibly can and try not to show any signs of nerves or anxiety. Then you should tell them what you don't like and why you don't like it. Don’t forget to provide them with some examples. At tell them that you appreciate it.
Such a behavior of two your friends is very widespread and it can be annoying. Let’s consider this example situation. A young man wants to introduce his girlfriend to his parents, but he is really afraid of it. Parents had been asking to meet her for a few months but the guy was scared of the introduction for some reason.