At the very beginning of this essay, I would like to mention that my mother grew up in Sri Lanka. One day, when I dealt with a boyfriend on phone, she was really shocked to hear that. That’s why she decided to explain to me how women needed to talk and behave. Her main purpose was to tell me that it’s important for all relationships to include certain stereotypical gender roles, as it’s the only way for them to survive.
Basically, this fluttering around men is the thing that many women do, starting with their fathers and brothers, in Sri Lanka. It’s true that local women treat their men as real rajahs or princes in their houses. I live in a western country so that I can see that it’s not a case here. If you take enough time to study more about people, it will become evidence that both social and legal rules are liberal, but there are still many relationships based on the wrong concept of spoiling men.
The main reason why I decided to address this subject in my essay is that it features quite prominently in both Death of a Salesman written by Miller and The Wild Duck by Ibsen. Keep in mind that both of these famous plays are centered on Willy Loman and Hialmar Ekdal, but it’s worth mentioning that their families rely on them not because of their strength. Both characters fancy themselves as strong and successful breadwinners, but their wives have to struggle and keep doing their best to make ends meet. It’s interesting that women do that to allow Willy and Hialmar to believe in their dreams and continue living in them so that it’s possible to call them mollified husbands.
Take into account that Hilamar was also spoilt by his aunts who raised him, and it seems that both male characters get used to being mollified by wives. If you consider the personalities of Linda and Gina, you will understand that they are quite similar. That’s because they both adore their husbands and do their best to manage all of their affairs to prevent any worries of their men.
Both women are responsible for doing accounts in their households and handle loans and regular payments. They also use any available opportunity to earn extra money to last their earnings for as long as they can, even if they have to deny themselves something important. The worst part is that Hilamar doesn’t even want to work so that Gina, his wife, has to do more than Linda to make him feel like a real rajah in Sri Lanka. Finally, it’s easy to compare his useless invention to Willy’s dreams because they all are built on his false hopes.
At the very beginning of this essay, I would like to mention that my mother grew up in Sri Lanka. One day, when I dealt with a boyfriend on phone, she was really shocked to hear that. That’s why she decided to explain to me how women needed to talk and behave.