When reading Our friends, Ourselves by Steve Duck, the reader learns about four rules that characterize friendship. The rules are the following: to keep a conversation, not to disclose secrets to other people, abstain from public criticism, to repay favors and debts. These four rules allow friends to be open, trusting, helpful, reliable, affectionate, respect our privacy and ourselves, as well as do favors for us. These rules should be known by everyone and used to build strong relationships with friends and for developing friendship.
Friendship is stable and individual relations that are characterized by mutual affection of participants and mutual expectations of reciprocal feelings and preference. The development of friendship implies adherence to the unwritten code of rules that affirms the necessity of mutual understanding, frankness and openness, confidence and active mutual support, mutual interest in the affairs and experiences of one another, sincerity and selflessness senses. Serious violations of these rules lead to the termination of friendship or its transformation into hatred.
Friendship depends on common goals, interests, ideals, intentions; it is necessary to manifest the unity of value-orientation. Friendship’s functions, laws of its development, and other significantly changes at different stages of life. Due to the fact that emotional distress plays a huge role in friendship, its formation and development depends on the frequency of contacts. If children’s friendships, which is characterized by typical emotional attachment, is based primarily on the joint activities, with the age there is a need in the other person, as an individual, based on the development of the need to recognize oneself and to relate one’s experiences with the experiences of the other person. On this basis, there is an intensive search for a friend and the possibility of idealization. Friendship reaches its greatest intensity during adolescence and early adulthood, when there is an exceptional importance of relationships with friends, a large frequency of meetings, and the time spent together. Friendship is also characterized by deep emotional contact.
For an adult, grounds for friendship are more differentiated, because friendship can be localized in love, family, or parental relationship. With the emergence of family and other changes the significance of friendship is somewhat reduced. However, in later stages of life friendship is one of the most important factors of personality formation and maintenance of stability of self-concept.
When reading Our friends, Ourselves by Steve Duck, the reader learns about four rules that characterize friendship. The rules are the following: to keep a conversation, not to disclose secrets to other people, abstain from public criticism, to repay favors and debts.